Loving a Wife Who Cheated on Me – Am I Stupid or What?
Being cheated on is one of the worst things (if not the worst thing) a partner can do, especially two loving partners. Why would your wife risk a loving relationship? There is no easy answer or quick fix to a problem like this, so don’t burden yourself with trying to come up with one.
The fact is more relationships deal with some form of cheating than relationships that don’t. Of course, we never think that our relationship would ever come to that, but the statistics show, sooner or later, it likely will.
Should you get over it? How do you get over it?
If you and your partner just don’t love each other anymore, then no, you should both go your separate ways. However, if you love you wife and she loves you, then yes, without any doubt you should try to get over it. But how can you do that?
Getting over the fact that your wife cheated on you will take time. You need to accept that right from the get go. Your wife may have cheated on you for no good reason other than “it was a mistake”. If this is the case, she’ll have to prove her loyalty and earn her trust back, and that will take time.
However, you and your wife may have drifted apart in some aspect. She may feel lacking in attention or emotional support, granted that is not a good excuse, but it is a popular reason why people cheat. They simply try to fill the void elsewhere. But don’t worry these things can be fixed.
Communication is the key to a long lasting and fulfilling relationship. Not the normal chit-chat, but the deep conversations where each partner tells the other how they feel. Desires are communicated. Fears are communicated. Common needs are communicated. And action must be taken on these exchanges.
Setting aside weekly “deep communication” sessions with your partner will definitely go a long way in making sure each other’s needs are met, or at least known. This is a very good practice to strengthen the bond with your partner.
So are you stupid for loving someone that cheated on you? Of course not. Loving your wife that cheated on you isn’t a stupid thing. True love is worth the trouble.
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What is the name of that country song where the guy thinks his wife is cheating?But really he wakes up at the end of the video and him and his wife had adopted all those kids and she really wasn't cheating on him. It also says something about her getting off 50 cent's tour bus. I am just curious because I saw the video this morning and can't remember who sang it or what the song was called. It is driving me crazy!! Thanks!!
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July 27, 2009
10:36 am
First you have to realize that her feelings aren't necessarily a reflection upon you. You can't make someone want you. I wouldn't believe her when she says she loves you either. There's obviously a lot of hidden issues she needs to deal with before you two can be in a postion to have a healthy marriage. She has to be willing to put in the work to get past these things and you need to loosen your grip or your going to make yourself nuts. Don't worry so much about the things you can't control such has is she going to want you back does she want to remain your wife. Concentrate on you and your issues. Work on making yourself the best person you can be and she will find that attractive as she did when you first got together. If things don't work out you will still be on your way to being a better person and able to move on in a healthier fashion. You do you and the rest will work itself out. Don't run behind her, she needs to get herself together or you arent going to be able to move forward as a couple. Relax.
July 27, 2009
10:39 am
Nice visual language, smouth camera moves, good blocking , and continuty, nice experimental projest! Bravo.
July 27, 2009
11:52 am
i believe it (NOT)
July 27, 2009
12:13 pm
u may think your in love with this other woman,and that she will be the answer to all your problems,but it never works out that way.no marriage is perfect,what u need is couples counseling where your wife could see what she might be doing wrong.what u are describing is the lust part,the honeymoon phase, which never lasts.its just infatuation where u think u love this woman.
July 27, 2009
6:40 pm
You aren't stupid. Ask yourself the infamous Ann Lander's question… Are you better off with him or without him. If he scares the kids and spends all your money, sounds like you are better off without him.
July 28, 2009
1:16 am
My goodness this is a tough room tonight. Give the girl a break. Everyone has their problems. I get so very weary of the holier than thou types.
July 28, 2009
5:29 pm
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh I read that WHOLE thing and I don't know what to say, but after havign read it all I feel obligated to say something. Sounds like you are smothering her maybe a bit too much, expecting things of her that are important to you, but not her. Take it easy, do as she says and relax. Yeah she should know things like how to turn off the natural gas, but really, how many women know how to do that and strive to actually learn things like that? So once you get her back actually stop all the talking and maybe start listening to her. Stop sweating the small stuff. You guys are in your 50's you say? A little late in the game for her to make any real lifestyle changes about the way she thinks so your ONLY option is to cater to her way of thinking….that is if you want to keep her. She sounds very stubborn but like I said, you're not going to change her, you can only meet her at least halfway which is all that is expected in any relationship. Good luck to you Sir.
July 29, 2009
2:16 am
Try to remember 2 things: He does not get to move on as if nothing happened. He still has to live with the fact that she was unfaithful to him, and that will always haunt him. My husband cheated on me…I chose to stay and work it out, and I have forgiven him, but I will never forget, and I am still suspiscious of phone calls he gets where I don't recognize the number, or when he takes the call in another room.
The other thing you need to remember is that he has children with this woman. He may be missing them so much that he is willing to do almost anything to be a family again, even if it means being with a woman he can't entirely trust.
I can't give you any magic words to make you feel better, but I would suggest you tell him that he is to no longer have any contact with you. If he is texting you while he's on his way out of the driveway, and you are texting back, then he knows he still has a safety net. Tell him you don't look back, it's me or her, but not both.
When my husband and I were still working things out, he told me he envisioned his future that he would buy a house near where we currently live, and we would still be friends and would see each other from time to time. I told him there was no way I could possibly stand by and watch him move on with his life, and that if we ended up divorced, he would never see me again (we don't have kids together). I really think that was the turning point in our relationship. He had this little fantasy in his mind that we would go our separate ways and it would be all sunshine and lollipops. When he realized that wasn't the way it was going to be, he re-evaluated what he really wanted.
July 29, 2009
2:25 am
has this woman really made you feel so bad about yourself that you have to ask that question? your x treated you horribly. before you start a new relationship you should see what you can do differently next time. there were probably red flags that you overlooked. no not all women cheat. some are even intelligent and caring enough to realize that if their life is dull, they can fix it without losing their integrity or their husband.
July 29, 2009
4:13 am
Christofer Rios AKA BIG PUN Rest in peace
July 29, 2009
6:09 am
The ‘double-entendres’ were quite amusing, well done.
July 29, 2009
1:29 pm
Poor acting, completely not believable.
The dialog needs to be faster. Damn it, she’s trying to rush him out of the door.
July 30, 2009
3:00 am
great movie
July 30, 2009
5:58 am
Oh…Not bad
July 30, 2009
11:33 am
no i dont view her as stupid, i actualy can't see how she took me back, after what i did on her, it still bother,s me why she took me back because if i think about it, if the shoe was on the other foot how would i like it , and i think to myself i wouldnt like it 1 bit, i had no need to cheat on her and yet i did it, it happened so easy so simple, i didnt even see it comming my feelings have changed towards my wife doe,s she still love me the way she did or is it a front she,s putting on, so we will just have to wait n see,
July 30, 2009
1:43 pm
Love the username and yes you can.
July 30, 2009
2:11 pm
LMFAO Big Pun?!?! AHAHAHA