How to Get Your Wife to Say “yes” to Intimacy More Often…
Men, in order for you to enjoy intimacy more often with your wife, there are some things she needs you to do differently…
When you come home at the end of your work day, your wife needs you to have a genuine attitude that lets her know she’s the person you’ve wanted to be with all day…that you’re excited to see her…that you’re anxious to spend time with her.
I can assure you, a dull husband who puts off a vibe that home is a dull place he goes to at the end of a dull day with dull people does NOTHING to sexually stimulate his wife!
So, when you get home, make REAL eye contact with your wife. Give her a warm, sincere greeting. And then, spend some time with her.
As before, I can assure you, no wife gets turned on sexually by a husband who blows in the door, grunts at her as he passes by, and then ignores her the rest of the evening in favor of more work or the TV.
On the subject of TV… Would it seem to an observer that you’re “more” married to your TV than your wife?
The thought that goes through many women’s head as they say “No!” to their husband’s sexual advances is, “Go “hump” the TV – that’s “who” you’ve spent all evening with!”
As simple as it may seem, many marriages would improve IMMEDIATELY if the husband would just turn off the TV and start interacting with his wife.
Men, being dull and boring doesn’t work when it comes to turning on a woman sexually.
The fact that men tend to be OUTCOME oriented means that they naturally tend to be PROCESS oriented…they want to know what process they need to follow in order to get a certain outcome.
And in the realm of intimacy, a woman – who’s focused on the relationship side of things – finds such an outcome and process oriented man…
…DULL, STERILE, and a TURN-OFF!
Now, the not-so-funny thing is, when I tell this to men, many of them just dismiss what I’m telling them as if what I’m saying doesn’t apply to them. They just flat don’t “get it” – and that’s why they don’t “get sex” very often!
So, let me give you an example of how a man’s natural process orientation gets between him and the intimacy he wants…
During the first year – give or take a little – a man spends quite a bit of time trying to learn what physical techniques his wife likes.
(As an aside, the fact that the man is paying so much attention to his wife is a major reason why the first year of marriage is usually the best – and subsequent years aren’t as pleasant.)
Once the man learns which physical things his wife likes – he’ll turn the whole thing into a scientific process.
From then on – at least until something major happens like a divorce or his wife cheating on him – the man will “apply” the exact same process to every lovemaking session he has with his wife.
And so, after a few years, it starts to look something like this…
1. On Saturday night
2. Turn off TV at 10:45 pm
3. Go through clean-up ritual
4. Crawl in bed with wife
5. Start applying preliminary physical techniques – such as kissing wife on the neck.
6. Start applying accelerator physical techniques – such as breast or vaginal stimulation
7. Go for intercourse.
8. All through and off to sleep at 11:15 pm
To the woman, it becomes a STALE, REPULSIVE ROUTINE where she can reliably predict exactly what’s going to happen…she can reliably count on her husband starting “on her cold” at the same time to being “finished with himself” at the same time…like clockwork…
Such a ritual is totally UNINSPIRING to a woman.
No wonder so many women act like they don’t want sex.
They want more of a love life than to be totally ignored except for 11 pm on Saturday night.
As a counter-example, it’s kind of like trying to make love to a woman who never makes any sound and who never gives any indication of any pleasure or appreciation for the intimacy…she just lays there curiously looking at the man as if he were engaged in some freakish activity…pretty soon, the man is going to despise the very notion of having sex with such a woman. Pretty soon, this man will be looking for a new woman.
In like fashion, a wife is NOT looking for some man to merely have intercourse with. If that’s all she needed, she’d probably get herself an adult toy and stay single.
What a wife wants is for her husband to be a suitor – a man who’s wooing his woman – a man who’s showing attention too and providing excitement for a woman in an effort to attract her to him.
And when a man provides this to his wife, that’s when he’ll find her saying “Yes” to intimacy instead of “No”.
Copyright 2008, Article by Calle Zorro of NymphomaniacWife.com. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if a resource box pointing to the following websites is included with it.
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July 20, 2009
10:32 am
KILL SAKURA’S D@MN EVIL BRO !!!! make sakura have her princess powers plzz ! i still cant believe shes a princess tho..lol i love ur chatz
July 20, 2009
10:41 am
OK, just a few thoughts, but she had an ongoing RELATIONSHIP for OVER A YEAR… that is so far beyond just a minor cheating episode and a lame excuse of being drunk.
That is just unforgivable… think about it in terms like this:
Scenario #1 – If someone in the heat of the moment does something wrong and feels guilty about it and stops doing it… isolated incident, the person is redeemable.
Scenario #1 – Someone for over a year keeps doing something… knowing it is wrong, but uses a lame excuse to justify it… Something is not right in the hard wiring for right/wrong.
Just because she found God and feels guilty NOW, what if she gets bored again in a year or two?
What if she "Falls Away" from the Church? What will happen then? The source of her guilt will be gone so how long will she be with the next guy?
Cut this one loose and move on. I have little tolerance for cheaters… but she cheated and betrayed the marriage by having a separate relationship on the side, and not just one but 2 separate relationships.
July 20, 2009
11:18 am
I had a friend who had a wife that would go out the whole weekend with her friends. It's pretty sad that people can't find others that respect them enough. It's sad on both sides.
July 20, 2009
11:31 am
I love ur chats keep making them
July 20, 2009
12:31 pm
wats da 1st song??
July 21, 2009
2:17 pm
omg, yay! SASUSAKU 4EVER!!!! i just don’t believe saku’s a princess, & that her bro, is a b@$t@rd!!!!!!!!! ^.^
July 21, 2009
4:35 pm
July 21, 2009
7:07 pm
KILL SAKARAS BRO DAMN
July 22, 2009
4:21 am
rockstar by hannah montana
July 22, 2009
4:32 am
i stop here cuz naruto gf
July 22, 2009
3:34 pm
I am so sorry for you. I have been there and do remember the pain. You really need to search your soul. Do you want to save your marriage? It will be a long and difficult road if you do. Divorce is the quick fix. Communicate with her, counseling is an option. Basically it depends on you two. If you and your wife are willing to put this behind you and move on then try. Your choice and you will have plenty of different advice. No matter what you choose it will be hard. Good Luck!
July 22, 2009
7:11 pm
Toras song is so funny XD…
July 22, 2009
7:12 pm
I read some of your other questions about this whole situationt to get a better picture of what went on…
Old flame or not, secret meetings in a hotel… that is completely unacceptable. You are going to have to make the decision in the end. It is a question of wether she told you everything… I would set her down and give her one more chance to admit everything that happened between them. Tell her if she can admit everything… and make sure to include that you are an intelligent man who has a lot of doubt that kissing and hugs were all that happened between them. Watch her eyes when she speaks and hold her hand. Then decide if you are completely satisfied that she told you the truth about everything…
If the answer is yes, then she is making an effort to be honest with you, and you have a chance to make a yes decision. You have to be able to forgive everything. You can't live in suspicion of each other, and you need to tell her you are willing to do this. Tell her she must cut him out of her life completely and go on a vacation away from everything and try to make life right again.
If you do not feel she was being honest with you completely. I would shut her out of my life and let her go her own way. You can't love someone that you can't trust.
I hope this helps… I'd also ask her how she expects you to be able to trust her after what she did. You can't punish her or she will do it again, but make her feel some remorse.
July 22, 2009
10:38 pm
If you don't trust her, divorce her. Playing private eye won't help. Trust is essential
July 23, 2009
4:42 am
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July 23, 2009
4:13 pm
No, I wouldn't because I earn 90% of the money and I have to work all week while she has the house pretty much free. I rarely have the house free, so, aside from her being a woman and that advantage, it would be a totally unfair advantage for her.
July 23, 2009
5:39 pm